If I can be honest, I’ve been struggling.

At least one person noticed it’s been a while since I published new content.  It’s been a couple weeks since I uploaded a new YouTube video.  It’s been a month since I’ve even logged into my relationship advice blog.

I’m not having creator’s block.  I’m feeling stuck.

When I started sharing this Operation Fix My Life journey, my goals were purely to create inspirational content.  I didn’t care about views, visits, likes, comments, shares… I just wanted my words to inspire others to take action.

It’s only been a few months, but I’ve been meeting these goals in droves.  Friends, family, and strangers have reached out to share how inspired they are to enhance their own lives.

So what exactly have I been struggling with?

It all started a few weeks ago when I decided to begin transitioning this pastime into a business.  By this time next year my goal is to start earning income by writing books, selling programs, and offering one-on-one consulting services.  Unfortunately, all of my research points to the fact that I’m currently on the wrong path to achieving these goals.

If this were March 2013?  Yeah, my current trajectory would definitely place me on track to earning passive income within a year or two.  But today, making money online requires a rigorous, intentional, focused plan.

I’m continuously coming across questions like what’s my niche?  Who’s my audience?  How do I target them?  Who’s my ideal client?  How do I market to them?  Where’s the gap in the market?  How do I fill that gap?

Not having distinct, focused answers to any of these questions means that I can research, blog, vlog, and post all I want, but I’ll never make any money doing it.

So for the past few weeks I’ve been feeling stuck.  Do I continue creating content just for the sake of creation?  Or do I start seeking the answers to the questions that will set me on the path to income generation?

I spilled these guts to a friend a couple days ago, and she told me, “Lyneè, this is your next post.  Write down everything you just told me you’re struggling with, and how you plan to pull yourself out of it.”

Is she a God-send or what?

I was hoping to have all of this figured out by the time I published this post.  I don’t.  But one thing is for certain — I can’t remain frozen.  I have to keep going.

So here’s my plan to get unstuck and keep it moving:

  1. Start a private journal of my wins, struggles, and action items to keep myself in forward motion
  2. Continue documenting my journey on this site, but decide on one specific niche to transform into a business
  3. Hire a consultant to mentor and guide me on the path to income-generation

If you ever find yourself in a similar position – feeling completely stuck in a rut and immobilized – then I’d like to share three steps to pull yourself out and keep moving forward.

talk to someone

Whether talking to God through prayer, or conversing with a close friend or mentor, it’s really important to get your thoughts off your chest and speak them out loud.  When we keep our thoughts locked inside, our heads and our hearts have a funny way of making things more complex than they need to be.  Sometimes all it takes is verbal articulation of those thoughts to connect the dots that we can’t see, but others can.

write down your goals

Since it’s easier to be blatantly honest on paper without fear of judgement or ridicule, write down your wildest dreams.  Write down who you want to be and what you want to spend the rest of your life doing.  The pursuit of any pipe dream attracts naysayers and stumbling blocks that stir up insecurities and self-doubt.  So when you feel stuck, go back and read your words.  Remind yourself who you are meant to be and what you are meant to do.  This may provide the necessary kick in the pants to quit the pity party and continue moving forward.

embrace the ebbs & flows

Believe it or not, the greatest part of any journey are the ups and downs.  In the moments when you’re feeling discouraged, unmotivated, or insecure, remember that the ups are on their way.  In the meantime, embrace the downs and document your journey through them.  Because those who will come after you, who will be inspired by your story, will need to know how you rose above the clouds of discouragement and continued shooting for the stars.

The road from ordinary to extraordinary is about the journey, not the destination.  So when you’re feeling down, unmotivated, or stuck in a rut, talk it out, re-read your goals, and set your sights on forward motion.